669. I Don’t Have to Be the Advice Giver

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Stop carrying the heavy mental load of solving everyone else’s problems. Lesley Logan reveals the surprising freedom that comes from stepping back as everyone's personal problem solver. From a viral Olympic story featuring Madeline Schizas that showcases the power of empathy, to Vickie McEntire’s incredible $500 community fundraiser, this episode celebrates the wins that happen when we simply root for one another. Lesley also pulls back the curtain on her own journey, sharing the boundaries that are transforming her personal relationships and protecting her peace.

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In this episode you will learn about:

  • A teacher going above and beyond to support his student's success.
  • Benefits of hosting community-based fitness events for local charities.
  • Strategies for identifying when advice is actually being requested.
  • Reducing mental pressure by releasing the role of problem solver.


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Lesley Logan 0:00  

It's Fuck Yeah Friday. 


Brad Crowell 0:01  

Fuck yeah. 


Lesley Logan 0:02  

Get ready for some wins. Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. 


Lesley Logan 0:48  

Hi, Be It babe. How are you? Oh my god. We're in the middle of April. We did it. We're here. I'm home. I'm back from Europe. I have so much to say about that, but I'll be in a future episode. So it's fuck yeah Friday. So we get really cool about talking about what's going well, what's fun, what, what did we do? Because if we don't celebrate the little things and the big wins, then who, who is right? I mean, actually today's inspiration on the internet, someone is and I, I have so much love for this post, and I also just feel like it helps remind, like, remind us that we're human beings and we can do certain things for people as well. So I mean, obviously, all capacities are different, but let me, let me show the story. So Madeline Schizas asked for an extension to our college assignment and see how our professor responded. So the the post is like, hi, Professor, blah, blah, blah. I'm a student in your sociology course, and I'm wondering if I can get a short extension on this week's reflection. I was competing in the Olympic Games yesterday, and thought the reflection was due Sunday, not Friday. Here is the Canadian Olympic Committee press release to confirm my participation. Thanks for your consideration. So cute, right? Like, by the way, I'd be this girl. This would be me going, I'm at the Olympics, and I have homework too, and here's a proof I'm actually gonna be in the Olympics. But this is how her professor responded. Hi, Madeline. Wow. What a special moment. Yes, in this circumstance, an extension is perfectly fine. I'd say focus on the competition right now and submit it directly to me when it's done. The triple, let's triple toe combo is a pretty hard move to master, but you've got this. Good luck. The whole country is rooting for you and your teammates. PS, when I was 10, I scored a goal in hockey, and that was challenging enough for me. And then there's another picture. He created an Instagram account just so he could post a picture of him watching her compete. I mean, the world needs more teachers like this now and then she she posted this, and she also shares, like, Wow, I can't believe everyone cared so much. I gotta get the extension. And so, so I just think it's so I just think that's so sweet and so special. And like, what a cool professor, not just to, like, give the extension, because, of course, that's what they would do. Like, that's the right thing to do, but also to be like, here I'm rooting for you like that's we all need teachers like that, and I know we have a lot of different types of teachers who watch and listen to this pod. And you're probably like that for someone else, and you might not even know it, but you you are. And so thanks for being here. Thanks for listening. 


Lesley Logan 3:15  

Okay, your win. This one comes from Vickie McEntire. So here's my win this week. Hell, this month, I hosted a Joe's gym to raise money for the local food pantry, and we brought in $500 we had fun, we played, we practiced. Heck, $500 for that's a huge donation for them. That's amazing. Way to go. Vickie, way to make it a community event. Way to make it fun. Way to make everyone wins there, right? Like everyone you, you get to have that achievement that you did this for them. They get to feel good because they gave money to them. Together, you guys gave a lot of money, and you all got to do Pilates. I love that. Thank you for sharing. You all should send your wins in to beitpod.com/questions so I can celebrate your wins here, and you can be reminded of the amazing things that you do. 


Lesley Logan 3:58  

So all right, here's the deal. I'm a recovering perfectionist and overachiever, and I have a really hard time sometimes, like turning the brain off. And I was given a suggestion that I don't have to in all conversations, help people with a problem, they have, meaning if they're not putting a question mark on the statement, I don't have to give them an answer, and so then maybe I wouldn't feel so pressured to be on calls in regular life. I'm not talking about work life, I'm talking about regular life, not the coaching calls, but regular life. Maybe I wouldn't feel the pressure to be on the call, because I'm not there to be anything other than, oh, wow, I'm sure you'll figure that out. Right? Like, I don't have to give advice, and then if my advice isn't taken, I don't feel frustrated that, like I gave you all this advice and you didn't take it. So I feel feel really good about that. And so I've been practicing that. Like, if they're not asking me for advice. I don't have to be the advice giver. What a world. I didn't know that that was a thing. I mean, not that I go around just like giving people unsolicited advice. It's not what I do. But I kind of have become that friend and family member who like, does that like I think people just assume I will. And so maybe they're not even putting question marks on it. And so now it's like, unless you put a question mark on it, I'm not gonna. I'm trying really hard to just go, oh, how interesting. 


Lesley Logan 5:29  

Okay, we it's one week in the body and the brain, and so it will take time. So what I'm gonna say right now is, what a load off. It already feels like a win, and it's only a load off and a week and, I mean, we'll see how things go as they progress. But I just want to share that with you, because, in case you're like me, and you are avoiding phone calls, not that I'm saying you're going to answer the phone calls. I'm not saying you do that. That's a different win, but you're avoiding the phone calls because you're like, Oh, they're gonna just not take the advice I have. I guess the moral of the story is, like, we don't have to give it, and that's the win. All right, Be It babe, you're amazing. I hope that made sense to you. I mean, since like attracts like, I think it might have. 


Lesley Logan 6:11  

Okay. Your mantra for the week. I am still learning, so it's okay to make mistakes. I am still learning so it is okay to make mistakes. We are still learning, so it's totally okay for us to make mistakes, because it is. You're amazing. Go share this with a friend who needs to hear it. Help this podcast get even bigger and a bigger audience, because the more Be It babes, the easier it is to be around people who are acting like the people that they want to be, so that they become that person today, instead of waiting. Yes, that's what we're here for. Have an amazing day. Till next time, Be It Till You See It. 


Lesley Logan 6:45  

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Brad Crowell 7:28  

It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell.


Lesley Logan 7:33  

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Brad Crowell 7:37  

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Lesley Logan 7:44  

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Brad Crowell 7:47  

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