657. Smart Ways to Respond Without Losing Your Energy

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In this episode, Lesley Logan shares her curated list of "passive-aggressive yet professional" scripts designed for those moments when you simply don't have the capacity to engage with negativity. Inspired by Dr. Rachel Selman, she dives into the importance of standing up for human rights and personal values, even when it feels uncomfortable. Lesley also celebrates wins from the community and reflects on her own small but meaningful victory of finally closing a lingering bank account task.

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In this episode you will learn about:

  • Clever responses from Dr. Rachel Selman for handling draining conversations.
  • Using calm, firm phrases to stand up for beliefs without escalation.
  • Why human rights and due process are fundamental, not political risks.
  • Community win, including teaching a successful mat class for Lululemon.
  • How completing a "small" task cleared a year of mental clutter.


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Episode Transcript:

Lesley Logan 0:00  

It's Fuck Yeah Friday. 


Brad Crowell 0:01  

Fuck yeah. 


Lesley Logan 0:02  

Get ready for some wins. Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. 


Lesley Logan 0:48  

Hi, Be It babe. How are you? Well, we are two thirds of the way through this month, and the equinox is tomorrow, and it's the spring equinox. And I you know there's all these different rituals you could do. Not gonna tell you about any of them, because go look them up and do the one you want to do, or do nothing and just enjoy it. But like, get outside, you know, check out the moon and take care of yourself, right? Like, truly. So this is the Friday episodes. This is non-interview, non-recap, just me sharing what inspired me that I saw on the internet that I was like, oh, I thought of you, Be It babe. Like, you're like, where do I should think is it's because I'm like, oh, I want to share this with you, my listeners, my favorite like the people who like you send me such great stuff. You send me inspirational stuff. You send me your wins. I so appreciate you send your questions in. Keep them coming beitpod.com/questions is where you can type, send your wins in and your questions. We love answering them on Thursdays. It's really a lot of fun. And then I share a win of mine and wins of yours. We can see that, like, there's good stuff happening. We're making magic happen. 


Lesley Logan 1:45  

So this is fun. This is responses I've used on Instagram when I don't have the energy. So these are, like, just going to be some answers that you should take from the show notes, copy and paste into your notes, and then text or respond when you don't have the energy to engage with whatever crap is coming at you. So this one, there's a few. Thanks for the message. I'll give that thought the consideration it deserves. So it's so passive aggressive. It's my fave, so petty. Okay, I disagree, but we are working from different levels of education, so I can see how you got to your conclusion. Ah, good. You seem very committed to your current level of understanding. Have a great day. I'm not persuaded. I'll defer to the conclusions that have already been established. That's an interesting perspective. I'm not sure we're operating on the same level of details. I can see why that might seem right to you. However, the facts still stand. I admire how your opinion remains unchanged despite evidence that contradicts it. So I I'm like keeping this save because in standing up for human rights, I've had many people get mad at me and say, just stick to your Pilates. I really like your Pilates, but I don't like your politics. It's like, you don't have to like my politics or like my Pilates, like, I don't, first of all, you're getting most of it for free. So, you know, like, personally, I just want to go fuck off because, like, you're in it for free. Go away. Like, I'm allowed to have my opinion. Clearly, you think you're allowed to have yours. And, like, sometimes our comments can just, like, live rent free in my head, and I get really annoyed by that. I do think that's part of like, my ADHD. At any rate, because of this Dr. Rachel Selman, who has come up with some great responses. I am just going to use these. And I think they're really great, especially the ones where they're like, he was not, he was like, gonna, like, when it was talking about (inaudible) who was gunned down, executed in front of, like, we can see with our eyes, and it's like, people like, people like, that's not what happened. It's like, okay, well, we're obviously operating on different different worlds. You know? It's like, I can see why that might seem right to you. However, the facts still stand. Great response, better response than what I want to do. It's like, Hmm, I just want to tell you. Like, I just want to, not you listener, like the person who has the fills a goal to tell me I just just shut up and dance like, I just want to tell them to fuck off and or this. So I hope you can see how it gets do you understand, like, but you know, right, like some of you are listening and haven't shared how you feel because you're afraid of those comments. And so my hope is that those responses I just gave you give you a little bit of gumption to stand up for what you believe. And it's never too late. It's never too late. It's not we need everybody in this we need everyone. And human rights and due process are not political. They're like, literally how the world should work. 


Lesley Logan 4:28  

So okay, now for your amazing wins, let me pull them up. Here we go. This one is from jessierodriguezaz. Teaching a successful mat class for Lululemon, but more importantly, looking over and seeing my husband, kids and parents. They're watching and smiling. They're what matters most. Oh my gosh, Jesse, beautiful, wonderful. And I mean, like, ugh, precious. Thank you for sharing that with us. I can just picture it. It's just so beautiful. All right. This one is from pilatesharmony88. More consistent than last week for me. Great. That is a great win. More consistent than last week for me. Wonderful. Good job. Win for you. I love it. Thanks for sharing, because we do need to celebrate that oh, I was better this week than last week. Okay, that's 1% better. Like, why do we have to be perfect? We don't. So send your wins in because I want to, I want to shout them out. I want to shout you out. I want you to remember, like, something that you did for yourself when, like, probably you're listening to something going oh, and then you're like, I had that win last month. Oh, my god, so good. 


Lesley Logan 5:28  

All right, so here's my win. This is gonna sound ridiculous. So I've been, I was really annoyed with my bank, like, two years ago, they sold again, and I've just been like, I hate this bank. I hate it so much every like, I never use the ATM card, because I rarely ever use an ATM card, and the moment I do it, it's like, you know, somehow compromised. I have to go fight for the money. I have to wait for it to come back. It's so annoying. So I'm only gonna use my credit card with that bank and then just pay the money off, right, whatever. But I don't get any benefits from this credit card. And like, it's the worst time in the world to, like, want a new credit card anyway, so I've just kind of, like, stuck with it, but in trying to leave them, I opened up a Credit Union account thinking, like, okay, that'll be good if I want to get a loan or whatever, blah, blah, blah.The Credit Union is farther away and never in a direction that I'm going. And so I just haven't been using their ATM either. And so unfortunately, like, I opened this account 100 bucks, and it's just slowly been losing the money like it was, what a waste. I hope that they enjoyed the money that they got because I just threw it away. But to close the account, I couldn't do it over the phone. I couldn't do it online. I had to go in person and write a letter. And I am happy to say I did that. I finally went and I did it, and I made it fun. I made a whole day of it. I took the dog to the fun dog store that's right there, because I was like, oh, if we're gonna go there, we should, may as well go to the fun dog store. So I'm just really pleased as punch with myself and I got that off of my plate and out of my brain, and it's been there for a year of me going, I have to go close that account. I have to go close that account. It's done. Did it. So that's my win. All right. So do you see? Wins can be anything. 


Lesley Logan 6:56  

All right, this is your mantra to get yourself out on for the weekend. My positive thoughts about myself are my choice. My positive thoughts about myself are my choice. My positive thoughts about myself are my choice. They're your choice, babe, go choose some good ones. All right, thank you for making this podcast a top 1% podcast. Thank you for being you. Thank you for sending your wins in, thank you for listening, thank you for sharing it, and thank you for Being It Till You See It. Bye for now. 


Lesley Logan 7:21  

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Brad Crowell 8:04  

It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell.


Lesley Logan 8:09  

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Brad Crowell 8:14  

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Lesley Logan 8:21  

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Brad Crowell 8:24  

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