620. How Habits Help You Be It Till You See It

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In this Habits Series episode, Lesley Logan breaks down how identity and belief play a foundational role in creating habits that last. She explains why habits fall apart when they conflict with self-talk and how shifting who you believe you are makes behavior change easier and more sustainable. Rather than forcing consistency, Lesley invites listeners to explore becoming the person who naturally lives the habits they want. This episode offers a mindset reset that helps habits stick without shame or perfection.


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In this episode you will learn about:

  • Recognizing habits as reflections of current identity and self-belief.
  • Understanding why belief must precede consistency for habits to stick.
  • Using identity statements to guide habit choices and experimentation.
  • Filtering daily routines through the person you want to become.
  • Allowing habits to evolve as identity and life seasons change.


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Lesley Logan 0:00  

Our whole entire day is just a series of different habits that we have, even ones we don't like. They serve a purpose. They serve a purpose for our brain. And that is how a habit is really created. But you have to be someone who actually believes you can be it like someone who has habits. 


Lesley Logan 0:15  

Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. 


Lesley Logan 0:53  

Hi, Be It babe. Welcome back to our Habits Series. I'm super excited about this series. I hope you've been enjoying it. If you haven't listened to the first part of the habit series, you can listen to this one, but I highly recommend you start at the beginning of the series, because it gives you the tools that you can rinse and repeat for every habit you want to have. And so today's topic is like, how being it till you see it helps with habits. There's a few different ways it helps with habits. So if you are someone who believes that you can't start a new habit, you won't. I know that sounds like duh, but also and also like, how many times have you been like, I'm a procrastinator, or I just can't be consistent with anything, or I'm just, I'm not a morning person. When we have those statements, those I am statements that are in conflict of the things we want to do, for sure, you're not going to make the habit happen that you want. It just isn't going to work like that. So I definitely want you, if there's a habit that you're wanting to create, I want you to listen to the start of the series, because we go through like the different tools that you need to do, to take a habit of feeling and then bring it into fruition. I shared in one of the episodes what habit I have been working on, and since I recorded those, I'm really proud to say, like, it's become a habit that I do. It's something that I actually think about doing. So I still have to celebrate. It's my habit that, like, I can step out of the celebration part. And I'm also, if you go to the episode where, like, the part of the day that your habit goes in, I am because my schedule has been really crazy, still figuring out when the best time of day, what is the best thing that the habit comes after, and that's just because I'm experimenting. But I do believe that I am someone who can create habits that stick. It is a habit that I want, and so it's still happening daily. It's just taking a little longer to stick in a place where I don't need to remind myself to do it with the testing of the prompts and with the celebration. And so I share that with you because it these things just take time, not because it takes 60 days and then voila, you have it. That's not how it works, and not because it only takes a day, but because we have to get our brain wrapped around it, and then our whole entire day is just a series of different habits that we have, even ones we don't like. They serve a purpose. They serve a purpose for our brain. And that is how a habit is really created. But you have to be someone who actually believes you can be like someone who has habits. I've had Brad Bisjack on as a guest before, and he's someone that I coached with a couple years ago, and he has this like, be do have situation, I promise this has to do with be it till you see it. And a lot of people go with, once I have blank, then I will do blank, and I will become blank, right? So once I have money, then I will be able to start that business, and then I'll be successful, right? Other people are like, well, they do it in the a different order. So they have, I don't know, actually, I'm not really good with the anagram, but there's a different order you can do it in. It still doesn't get you what you want. So there's only one way to do it. You have to go with the B, then the do, then the have. So be it till you see it, right? So if you want to be someone who works out and does move it every day, you have to act as if you're someone who works out every day. You also have to believe I am someone who moves every day. I am someone who values movement. So the thoughts you put in helps you filter. It also will help you as you as you start to create habits that stick in that you're going to get something wrong. You're going to get something wrong, you're gonna get something, you're gonna say I'm who wants to go to the gym every day, and then you might, I hate this gym. Actually, I prefer Jiu Jitsu. Actually, I'm someone who moves every day. I'm gonna go to a dance class. Actually, I hate dance instead, I'm gonna go and do some Tai Chi. Like, in the process of becoming having the habits you want, you have to start with the person you want to be, and then ask yourself, what would that person do if I'm if someone, if I'm already someone who values movement, what would I do in the morning or in the afternoon or at night? And then break it down to something smaller, and then be curious about it and celebrate what you did do. So the be it till you see it mindset doesn't just apply to a business goal, or a money goal, or relationship goal or health goal. It actually applies to the life, the entire compass of the capacity of the life that you want to have. And so it's super important how you talk to yourself. Because if you are saying, I suck at this, I'm terrible at this, I'm someone who can't get up in the morning. You're not going to just you're not going to start getting up in the morning and having a habit that sticks. We have to start that mindset. 


Lesley Logan 5:25  

So what I would suggest that you do, I think it's super important, is just kind of reflect about, like, who you want to be, right? Who is the be? What are we being it until we see? So take some time and just reflect on like, okay, it's the future. We snapped our fingers. Everything worked out. Who are you? You know, what time do you get up in the morning? How do you spend your time? What does it smell like where you are? What does it feel like? What clothes do you wear? You know, do you cook for yourself? Do the meals get delivered? Keep going, right? So like you're, you're the person you want to be, is how we filter, what are the actual habits that you are going to have? So this episode could have come honestly as number one before you filled out the bubble of like, okay, I want to have this. And here's all the different ideas. But this is a really good mindset talk to like, think about. When I was in Cambodia a couple weeks ago, leading people through the workshop, the first thing we have to do is like, figure out, like, okay, so before I teach you habits that stick, and before I teach you how to delegate things off your plate, and before I teach you how to do a dream schedule, we have to understand, like, who it is that we want to be. Because if we know who that person is, you know, then we can actually create the schedule that involves that person. But if we don't go through that process, then we actually create a dream schedule and habits based on the person we are right now. And there's probably there's nothing wrong with who you are right now. You're an amazing person. You're worthy already. But if you are listening to this, it's because you want a little bit more. You want something more in an area of your life, there's something that you're wanting to be till you see. And so I would, I really encourage you to take out a piece of paper, journal, notebook, you know, transcript tool, and to start to go through a dream day of the like you were already it. Everything has happened. You've had the training or the certificate, or the education or the windfall that you need. And so, who are you? What do you value? Who do believe about yourself? What are the I am statements that you say? Okay, when you have that, then it's like, okay, so, what does it what habits does this person have? So if you want to have a like a beautiful Pilates studio, right? And your dream schedule at that studio is that you will actually come in, read everyone who works with you, say hi to the clients that first class. You know, there's a scent that you make sure is on in the studio. And then you go to your office and you do what? And then you maybe you take class then, and then it's lunchtime, and then you have meetings, who you're meeting with, all these different things. What are the habits that that person has before they get to the studio, or the habits that person has when they're at work? What are the what are the habits that person has when they get home? So see yourself in the future already having all the things. So who is that person? And then what we can do is rewind it or unravel it to go we get to where we are today, and then go back to episode one, and then two and three and four, and actually start to process one thing at a time, one habit at a time. 


Lesley Logan 8:39  

And the other way that the be it till you see it mindset works is that you actually get to just try one at a time. Because if we try to be it till we see it as an all or nothing. We talked about this in last episode, we try to do seven habits at the same time. It becomes really difficult to understand what's working and really see how we like it. And so when you have the be it till you see it mindset, as you try out these different habits, it makes it so much easier to make sure that the habits are ones that are going to give you the life that you want to live. And then you get to act as if you already have that habit, allowing to be easier for you to celebrate, easy to be curious, easier for the habit to actually stick, because your belief is you already are this person with these habits and not the the other opposite, which is like I am someone who procrastinates. Does that make sense? So keeping this episode short, because what I would prefer you do is take some time to think about the person that you want to be on the other side of all of this, and then really think about all the habits that that person has, the you that at that time that has and not shaming or blaming yourself. I should be further by now. I should be further ahead. I should already have these done. I've tried this habit before, starting all over again. No, that, that shit talk doesn't even work. That doesn't it's not going to help anybody. In fact, what it does it just, it actually just keeps you safe. I know. Do you believe that, like, say, there's safety in living the life that you're trying to get out of? Yeah? Because your brain is like, well, this is safe. This is the devil that I know, right? So I would love for you to take some time today just to really think about who you're trying to become. Who is the be it till we see it? What are those habits that you want to have in place? And then go back to the beginning of this process, write down one of the habits in the center, all the ideas that go around it. Then do the grid of want to do, don't want to do, easy to do, hard to do. Then take the couple that are in that one quadrant, because it's only goimng to be a couple, and then see where you can plug it into your day, and then have it as a prompt. And then use the be it till you see it mindset, until the habit sticks. I am someone who can do this thing. I am someone who have this thing comes easy for and then I am going to I'm someone who wants to make coffee for myself and my partner in the morning. So what would that person do to make coffee in the morning? Who do you have to be? And it really does make it so much easier to make any habit, because there's a belief in yourself that it's possible. I tell the people that I coach all the time like I cannot believe in your dreams more than you do all the time. I can I can be that person who like helps you realize that there's like you should be believing yourself. And I can do that. I can absolutely, in the beginning, when we meet, absolutely I can see the potential and the amazingness. But if you don't believe in you, you don't get very far, right? We don't get very far. I will also just add to this episode how I use habit that stick to make sure that I run this business well. And it's not perfect. I learn every single day, I'm constantly like, going, okay, who do I want to be it until I see you in this business, right? Like, okay, you get you evolve, and you get better. And in fact, you actually become the person you're trying to see. And then it's like, okay, now the business has risen to this level. We have this many people on the team, so the habits that are in my life that allow me to show up every single day at work exist in the morning. My morning routine is humongous for me. The morning walk that I have to do make sure my dog feels super, super loved, but also that I get the blood flowing. My morning plunge happens before that. My cold plunge happens before that. I read these amazing daily books while I'm in the cold plunge so that I can start the day with these words of wisdom and things to think about and remind myself of how truly loving and wonderful I can be in this world. Right? I'll need those pep talks. Those are habits. What I read, the cold plunge, the medicine that I take in the morning, the walk, the shake plate, the Pilates, the red light, when I have breakfast, fueling myself. All those habits are habits that are helping me be it till I see it, and as I continue to give more clarity around who I'm trying to become. As I grow older, as my business grows, those habits get reviewed and reflected. Some of them will evolve out or evolve to a different time. So especially for the women listening to this podcast, like some of the habits that you have may have worked for you a while ago, but they don't work anymore. They're not part of who you're becoming, and so you'll have to listen to listen the episode on how to unravel those habits, right? How do we get rid of that prompt? What are we replacing it with? And reminding ourselves that, like you didn't get anything wrong with that habit, it just no longer serves you. It's no longer part of who you're becoming, and the more we can become the person that doesn't shame and blame, but instead celebrates and inquires and gets curious, easier it is for us to add new habits that help us be it till we see it. I have habits at night that help me sleep well so I can go up in the morning to start those habits. My habits at night have also evolved. How soon, how early I have to go to bed has changed. What I can listen to before bed has changed. Right? What? What? What is my skincare routine has changed. Because as I be it till I see it, the person I'm becoming, she gets she has changed. She's gotten older. She's got different goals. She's got different dreams. And so I'm giving that to you because I think it's really important that you don't put so much pressure on yourself that what you write down is written in stone, and then you have to do it. And then once you do it, you've done it. Check. No, this whole program is created so you can re listen to it and reuse it as you evolve, as the clarity around who you're becoming, who you're being, till you see becomes clearer. So thank you so much. I'd love to hear what you're trying to how you're using habits to be, till you see it. What habits came up for you? What habits Did you realize? Like, oh, when I was listening the first couple episodes, I thought I wanted to work on this habit of drinking more water. But now that I'm thinking about how the person I want to be, what are the habits that I want to have so I can become her, because all the things we do are the ones that help us become the person we want to be, or they hold us down where we are. It's the truth. We have two more episodes in this series. They are really there for you as part of like how to change and update your habits for when you're traveling, or for specifically movement and health. So you have all the tools you need to create any habit that you want. If you are worried about habits while you're traveling or want to focus more on healthy I hate the word, like healthy habits, but habits that help with the health that you're trying to live for. Those will be the next two bonus episodes in this series. But for now, I think you've got what you need to be till you see it and create habits that stick. And I would love to hear how this series works for you. So make sure you send it in if you have any questions about it you want to dive in deeper. Send it in to the beitpod.com/questions. You can also send the wins of you celebrating the habits that you're creating to that same place, beitpod.com/questions and I will shout you out on our FYF episodes. Thank you so much, and until next time, Be It Till You See It. 


Lesley Logan 16:08  

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Brad Crowell 16:51  

It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell.


Lesley Logan 16:56  

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Brad Crowell 17:00  

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Lesley Logan 17:07  

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Brad Crowell 17:11  

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